‘Not A Mistake, Parents’ Hope for their Gay Son,’ is a helpful book for friends of all who identity as LGBTQ

Not A Mistake, Parents’ Hope for their Gay Son, chronicles Jim Domen’s journey growing up with same-sex attraction, his parents’ response when he ‘came out,’ his prodigal return, and his ongoing struggles as he leads his wife, his children, and his ministry to serve Jesus Christ.

Jim Domen was living the good life until he wasn’t. He and his partner, a man he calls R, co-owned a chic art gallery in Palm Springs, California. Though same-sex marriage was not yet legal, they each had wedding rings. Partners at work—and home. Soon, the relationship, fueled by R’s addiction to alcohol and weed, dissolved. 

“I plopped down on the floor and stared up at the vaulted ceiling,” Jim writes in Not A Mistake, Parents’ Hope for their Gay Son. “I had no belongings, no electricity, no air conditioning, and no money. It was June 8, 2002, and in the summer in Palm Springs, it’s hotter than you can imagine. As I lay there with beads of sweat dripping from my forehead, I looked up, and the only words that came to mind were, ‘God, I’m yours again.'” 

Not A Mistake, Parents’ Hope for their Gay Son

The deeply reflective new book, Not A Mistake, Parents’ Hope for their Gay Son, carries a Forward written by noted author and Christian Apologetics Professor Sean McDowell.

It is provides an essential biblically based resource for parents, family, and friends of loved ones with same-sex attraction. Jim addresses all of the central questions, from using preferred pronouns to attending gay weddings and parenting children who identify as LGBTQ. Not A Mistake, Parents’ Hope for their Gay Son also includes stories of many others who grapple with same-sex attraction.

The book also addresses questions such as

  • Where did we go wrong?
  • Is my son a mistake?
  • How do I support my child without compromising Scripture
  • How do I love my child well?
  • Is there hope?
  • Where can I find help?

The book is set to be translated into 12 languages.

Jim, who with wife, Amanda, has three children, is the founder of the national ministry, Church United, which has a network of more than 2,000 pastors in eight states. The ministry equips and empowers pastors to become engaged in culture and public policy. See more of Jim’s story at JimDomen.com.

Copies of Not A Mistake, Parents’ Hope for their Gay Son are available at NotAMistake.com

Also read: Not my Gay Way, But Your Will be Done!


The X stands for Ex Lesbian, Ex Gay, Ex Transgendered and Ex Questioning. There is hope for those struggling with unwanted same sex attraction or gender related issues. You don't have to stay gay!

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